Agricoltura, Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel
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Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.
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Brilliant
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Me think this woman protesteth too much. Sounds like not only is she explaining how affairs happen, but also wants to rationalize a complete betrayal like an affair, because of her own struggles with staying in a marriage.
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Excellent speech! Thank you!
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So why do women cheat?
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Perel is a good name for this woman. Infidelity is the most dangerous threat to human flourishing there is.
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Typical modern garbage. Any man who takes back a woman who slept with another man after pledging exclusivity to him deserves what they get. The only way to "heal" over an affair is to remove that human being from your life. "Hold vigil for the relationship..." Garbage.
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Amazing insight. It seems we really need to continually work on ourselves rather than look to our partner to meet all of our needs.
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This type of behavior will put you in your grave. A cheater and an adulterer will bring you a disease. Too many times they are out there raw dog, and they are laying with someone who is most likely a liar and low down like them. At some point the fact that the person you are laying with is unavailable becomes a known fact. lt is ignored, and life goes on. Why jeopardise your life? Self preservation is the first law of nature, and you can't preserve when you are dealing with someone who has a knife in your back. This low down behavior is equivalent to death for a family with children involved. Ester is not talking about what happens to the children that live in the middle of all of this animal dong! l am not a therapist, but l work in a public school, and you better believe the children are suffering because adults can't and won't control their genitals.
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This is interesting. I still wouldn't advise anyone to stay tho. Truthfully it leaves the door open for more betrayal once the desire weans or dissipates.
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you get the lover you deserve / need
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I think she wants some body to go dicker down
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It's not fair that the person who did the "affairing" gets a lot of blame? I disagree very much.
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Brilliant!! Just brilliant. Thank you @LittleCrunchy for recommending this
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Well,. an important aspect which is usually the reason for an affair is the wish for the fresh, for life, or just to know you can still do it, the deadly routine which most people allow their relationship to fall into after some time. The affair happens when there is lack of trust, and the notion of ownership. When communication fails, Many relationships have found new force opening up to be with others. Why cant we love more than one? When I ask this question most people get scared. Fear is a big factor in many relationships and fear kills love and replaces it with control! If we can develop real love and trust, what is the problem with having more than one partner? This way we can keep falling in love and not reject anything. Just stay true and caring whether you have one two or more partners. And keep falling in love with your partner or partners. I always found both for myself and my clients that it was the lie more than the action that hurt.
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legally men going out have favored women less so the other way.
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This is a solid talk - no props, no PowerPoint, no videos, just Esther Perel's insights and conclusions.
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it's nice hearing things from a different pov
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Absolutely brilliant
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I needed this. Wonderful lecture
Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships. TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at http://www.ted.com/translate Follow TED news on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/tednews Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/TEDtalksDirector